It’s A Temporal Life

“Bear in mind always that you never choose only for yourself, but for all of us.”

[Originally published on MySpace on October 22, 2010.]

“I can be nice to the end of the earth so long as nothing comes along to “rock my world” challenging my ability to be so. (Threaten or harm my child and see how fast “nice” angry smiley is heaved out the window!)”

~~Deborah, commenting on “It Ain’t Rocket Science,” (emphasis added).

Hahaha, yep! In fact, there’s no heaving involved. “Nice” just poofs out of existence without transition. This I freely acknowledge, Deborah, without debate–it must be. Mama Bear (and Papa Bear!) doesn’t give a rat’s ass who you are, she just wants your beating heart on a stick, you mess with her babies. I am no different, and God help anyone who does this, because I’m well-armed (and I’m not talking guns and knives here, friends and neighbors) as well as motivated.

However! Since at the moment my son is safe in bed and I am calm, I will point this out: we are here in this world now, enmeshed in a context that engenders a need not for Mama Bear to exist (in most cases, barring abuse to the point of abomination, she already does), but for Mama Bear to come out and do what she does on a basis that is far more regular than it needs to be. For example, how did an individual who might prey on a child come into being? What hell have they been through? Though I grant you once such a person preys on a child, their life is all but forfeit, my appeal is that we create a world in which this happens a great deal less often–and this, I think, is well within our grasp.

So, put another way, we have (at least) two temporal issues here: one is what we have now, which may be met with what I’ll call “triage.” Triage is when you deal with circumstances as they are now when they are enacted before you as crisis. Someone threatening or harming your child is a crisis that must be dealt with here and now, and “niceties” (as opposed to “nice”) are not likely to cut the mustard. Even so, there are things that can be done, and the list will fall into two categories: stuff that works, and stuff that doesn’t work. But, lead time for making a carefully considered decision is short to non-existent, since the goal of the moment is to spike a gun that is already being pointed, not save the world in general.

This is the reactive side of human endeavor, right?

The other temporal issue has to do with an ongoing journey into the future which has its starting point always rooted in “now” (and of course, “now” always includes all history up to it). In between times, when your child is not threatened, practice “nice.” The idea is to lay ground work such that circumstances which CREATE triage situations are less likely to occur. This is a complex, time and energy consuming process that requires ALL our participation.

And, this might be termed the proactive side of human endeavor.

A poignant question: Where was Mama Bear for the person who threatens your child, back when it might have made a difference for that person? Where is Mama Bear at all times, for everyone? Why do we not defend each other like this? Clearly, we need defending, granted from each other (isn’t that awful?). But a rampage of bloodshed isn’t going to solve the problem, of course, except on a situational, temporary basis, and will likely immediately cause more problems as a result of having gone on a rampage. Instead, we need to practice our lives such that a rampage becomes less urgent and less necessary.

What I’m trying to get at is not that you must allow yourself or your loved ones to be abused by other people. The need for triage in crisis is not going to go away any time soon, and probably not ever completely. RATHER, what I’m trying to get at is that we ALSO need to take care to foment common ground to decrease the incidence of a need for triage, by decreasing the incidence of crisis. And to do this means we must solve problems at their root.

Another thing I’ve been hammering away at: humans are not intrinsically bad, flawed, evil, etc. We’re human. Instead of being omniscient, which necessitates a freedom from the temporal, we create meaning. That being the case, of course we’re going to stumble, fall, and get hurt. Sometimes we trip each other. Sometimes we manage disaster on a scale that is nearly unimaginable in scope. But, this is not because we lack intrinsic worth, it is not because we’re some huge cosmic mistake that is somehow our fault, it is because we learn. We grow, we evolve. We can choose.

“God’s already knocked out by you!” I ask all of you: what, down to the nitty gritty, down to the bone, do you think this means? God is not expecting us to become HIM!! He’s already him, what does he need with another him? If he wanted another him, he’da done that already, don’t you think? God knows who we are, what we are, what we can do. Let us not only have a little faith in that, let us celebrate it. Let us make it work for us. God didn’t give us free choice so that we could choose to punish ourselves throughout time for not being him. He gave us free choice as the essence of who we are, that we might become ourselves more and more if we see fit, gambling that we might also wipe ourselves out.

And my goodness, the things we can do! We’re amazing! Even the shit we come up with by accident is stunning. Not always pretty from our human perspective, I grant you, but stunning. If we can be stunning by accident, what do you suppose we can do on purpose?

Humanity is a wonder to behold. And we have the ability to become more so. Let us get with the program, eh?

Those of us who espouse something other than God? More power to ya. But!! This does not relieve you of your humanity, nor of the joy and wonder of it, and certainly you are not relieved of the responsibility that is inherent in the possession of a mind. We may have started out as amoebas. That was then. This is now–and love by whatever we call it is who we are, and it will find us in whatever guise we wrap around it–paganism, atheism, agnosticism, deism, secularism, etc.–all the isms. It is up to us whether love makes us or breaks us. Which do you prefer? Bear in mind always that you never choose only for yourself, but for all of us.

I will open my hand for your sake, and mine, and for all
If you fall away from me, yet will I whisper your name to my last breath
That you might have need of it
And I will seek you within the labyrinth
A braided twine at my heels
Should you choose to return
Or continue its path afore.
What compass I may lend
I offer, for needless to say but for saying it…
…whither thou goest, I will go.

~Thea

MUCH thanks and love to Deborah for her always insightful and heartfelt gifting of herself! xxoo
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14 Responses to It’s A Temporal Life

  1. Thea says:

    Skribbler – nWo:

    The future may start with now but we as a species are doomed because we nail our future to our past

    Posted by Skribbler – nWo on October 22, 2010 – Friday – 10:25 AM

    • Thea says:

      Yes, often this is the case. But is this inevitable? And too, ACTUALLY learning from our mistakes, over the full course of history, might be a novel approach, eh? 😉

      Posted by Thea on October 22, 2010 – Friday – 10:34 AM

    • Thea says:

      Insofar as we attempt to justify our past actions rather than admit that they might be wrong and seek to resolve the circumstances that led to those mistakes, yes…big huge MFing problem, I gotta admit. For instance, what happens for all the women (and their friends, families, lovers, etc.) who decided to have an abortion if it becomes generally agreed that abortion actually does mean ending the life of a human being? But even as we cannot judge our ancestors entirely legitimately based on our current context, so should we also be careful how we judge ourselves regarding our own pasts, because even though more recent, and even contemporary, there is still historical context attached. Mercy and forgiveness…we HAVE made mistakes and we WILL make mistakes. Let us do the best we can not to require each other to slit our wrists over the worst ones, eh? What does that solve, but an end to all with no mitigating grace?

  2. Thea says:

    Denese:

    I think balance is what we must strive for. A point of equilibrium, if you will, between the need for protection and defense, and the desire for humanism, charity and love.

    One way to accomplish this is by the formation of new kinds of “community.” such as we are developing here among this group of friends on MySpace.

    Evolution to me does not mean becoming God, or even more like God. It means becoming more “human” which would mean more cognizant, more empathetic, more loving. The very things that separate us from the “lower” animals. And that includes, in my opinion, the ability to communicate with the Divine.

    Love ya, Mama Bear.

    Posted by Denese on October 22, 2010 – Friday – 11:46 AM

  3. Thea says:

    jcmmanuel:

    Wow. Long-term, thinking ahead crisis management. Very good. “My appeal is that we create a world in which this happens a great deal less often” says it all, and does result in the idea of solving problems at their root. “God’s already knocked out by you” is, again, from the exchange video – Rich Mullins really goes well with your thoughts isn’t it? I knew it was a good vid, but I didn’t understand the depth of this guy until you started to turn this brick.

    PS. ameobas must be a typo – you may want to correct it before someone reads it as amigobas or anything of that order. Or leave it there as a mind trick. We were created for love, after all – or so it seems. You are right about God: He makes sense because of love. He may not have made much sense to any amoeba out there – but that only matters to anyone who considers amoebas the norm for humanism of course.

    I’ve skipped the poetry. I’m still just a poetato guy.

    Posted by jcmmanuel on October 22, 2010 – Friday – 1:08 PM

    • Thea says:

      Thank you for correcting my spelling. Of course, if the damned word was spelled properly to begin with, it wouldn’t be an issue. And yes, “amoebas as the norm for humanism” is just as valid a point of view as any, particularly when dealing, for instance, with recalcitrant software that has hit the market before being finished.

      Posted by Thea on October 26, 2010 – Tuesday – 8:05 AM

    • Thea says:

      Kay, well just to torture you, read the poem down to the last line, then lemme know where that last line comes from. *evil grin*

      Posted by Thea on October 22, 2010 – Friday – 4:12 PM

  4. Thea says:

    Deborah ~ ♥ “Erekamka Na Adonai” ♥:

    I cannot thank either you or Thea enough for the introduction to Rich Mullins.

    I’ve watched the recommended videos so many times I can recite much of them from memory. Impressive, heart grasping, on target thoughts and views that I’ve come to hold very, very dear!

    You are both well loved and deeply appreciated!

    Posted by Deborah ~ ♥ “Erekamka Na Adonai” ♥ on October 22, 2010 – Friday – 1:44 PM

  5. Thea says:

    Deborah ~ ♥ “Erekamka Na Adonai” ♥:

    Until I had no choice, I was not well armed as I had up to a point, never been one to feel the need, (non-aggressive, non-assertive, decidedly passive, non-confrontational, totally non-violent, which, I might add, caused me some intense personal anguish at the hands of people who were not-so-nice). Even after becoming a mother, I trusted until pushed too far.

    My “Mama Bear” instinct came into being/play due to people, (many in the professional field) repeatedly revealing/exposing themselves as threats, rapacious without conscience. I’m not referring only to physical threats but threats in ways that were more subtle, more calculated, harder to detect. I evolved into a “Mama Bear” due to “cub/clan” exposure to menace.

    “…how did an individual who might prey on a child come into being?”

    A variety of things might contribute to a person becoming predatory, aggressive or abusive; environment, conditioning, learned behavior, lack, excess, brain abnormalities, childhood trauma, genetics, neurological disorders, brain damage, abuse, many, many things. Sometimes there is no perceivable or recognizable explanation as the person’s background has no indication of contributing factors that might trigger such dysfunction.

    “What hell have they been through?”

    Sometimes much, sometimes little to nothing out of the ordinary.

    Another question might be; How is it that some people are grossly adversely effected by particular “things” and become anti-social in their behavior and others who are subjected to much, much more/worse, do not?

    I agree we can improve our world to the point that these things happen a “great deal less often”. However, I am of the belief we sadly and unfortunately cannot completely rid the world of “bad” things.

    “The reactive side of the human endeavor”can be inherent, learned, conditioned based upon experience or a mix of these three or more factors not listed. The outcome is…each of us will react differently to crisis. Some reactions will work, others won’t but as you stated, “lead time for making a carefully considered decision is short to non-existent” during crisis. Exactly, and usually we don’t have a great deal of control over our emotion-led, immediate, adrenaline pumped, reactions to threats perceived or real. “Crimes of passion” if you will.

    “In between times, when your child is not threatened, practice “nice.” The idea is to lay ground work such that circumstances which CREATE triage situations are less likely to occur. This is a complex, time and energy consuming process that requires ALL our participation.”

    Key word: “ALL”. We can make progress without everyone participating but… advancement will have limits. Additionally, not to sound pessimistic or doubtful but…I have some major doubts in regard to being able to lay groundwork that will reach out past our immediate environment or “neighborhood” when a majority are not also laying groundwork. But…any advancement/progress is reason to celebrate and be appreciative.

    “…we must solve problems at their root.”

    Agreed, but here again we encounter difficulty.

    One, there must be agreement that there are problems and what those problems are.

    Two, everyone must come to the table to discuss how to solve the problems. Unless we are all willing to enter the room, pull up a chair, sit, listen, share, discuss and formulate solutions, little will be accomplished. “Peace talks” are fruitless unless everyone agrees that “peace” is necessary and desired, then all parties at odds need attend and participate.

    Three, the solutions must be agreed upon by all and then everyone has to apply them willingly & diligently.

    “”God’s already knocked out by you!” I ask all of you: what, down to the nitty gritty, down to the bone, do you think this means?”

    There is nothing, not one thing I, [we/humans], can think, say, do or change about self, that will move God to be more impressed, [knocked out by you], with me, [us], than He already is and has been from day one.

    “Humanity is a wonder to behold.”

    ABSOLUTELY!

    “Bear in mind always that you never choose only for yourself, but for all of us.”

    AGAIN, ABSOLUTELY!!

    “An army is a strange composite masterpiece, which strength results from an enormous sum total of utter weaknesses. Thus only can we explain a war waged by humanity against humanity in spite of humanity. “ ~ VICTOR HUGO, Les Misérables

    “Under the sublime law of progress, the present outgrows the past. The great heart of humanity is heaving with the hopes of a brighter day. All the higher instincts of our nature prophesy its approach; and the best intellects of the race are struggling to turn that prophecy into fulfillment.” ~ HORACE MANN, A Few Thoughts for a Young Man

    Thank YOU, Thea for another thought provoking blog that focuses on understanding the human condition and progress.

    🙂 ~ Deborah

    Posted by Deborah ~ ♥ “Erekamka Na Adonai” ♥ on October 22, 2010 – Friday – 1:29 PM

  6. Thea says:

    ROBERTOelDRAGÓN&IDYs!:

    CAN’T.

    Posted by ROBERTOelDRAGÓN&IDYs! on October 22, 2010 – Friday – 8:18 PM

  7. Thea says:

    ROBERTOelDRAGÓN&IDYs!:

    RESPOND, IS WHAT I MEAN, ABOVE? JUST, THE REQUIRED IMAGINING, OF ONE, OF MY 2 KIDZ BEING IN -THIS- KIND OF SITUATION MAKES ME TEND (STILL, n MY IMAGINATION!) TOWARD MURDEROUS BARBARISM! AND, NOW, AS I SIT, MY STOMACH STRONGLY URGES ME TO VOID ITS CONTENTS. PRIMAL AND FASSSS EXPLAIN! 1. IN THIS, SINGULAR, SITUATION, I WOULD KILL THE CULPRIT(S), AND TAKE INFINITE PLEASURE, IN DOING IT, AS SLOWLY AND PAIN-COMPLETE, AS I COULD. I’M NOT TALKING CAPTURING AND TORTURING. IT WOULD OCCUR, @ THE SITE. BUT, I HAVE GROWN UP w VIOLENCE, AND, w NO WANT OR NEED TO GO -THAT- FAR (CAUSE A DEATH? LORD!), I AM, NEVERTHELESS, RATHER GOOD @ IT! (PRACTICE FACTOR.) I DON’T KNOW, FOR CERTAIN, HOW MANY (ONE REASON BEING, THE IMAGINED TARGET’S PHYSICAL STAMINA IS AN OBVIOUS UNKNOWN, AND MIGHTILY INFLUENCING FACTOR.), BUT, I COULD AND WOULD MAKE IT (THE RAIN OF DAMAGE INFLICTIONS) LAST FOR HOURS! AND, 2. IT SICKENS ME, TO, ONLY, IN MY IMAGINATION, JUST NOW, FACE THE HORROR, IN KNOWING; I WOULD RELISH EVERY, PAIN; INFLICTED, SCREAM; FROM THE TARGET, AND, SMALL BUT WARMISH FEELING, OF HIS/THEIR BLOOD SPLASHING AND SPRAYING MY HANDS AND FACE, ETC… I’VE EXPERIENCED THIS. BIT MORE THAN, SEVERAL TIMES! BUT, NEVER IN THE PROCESS, OF TAKING A LIFE (OR, GIVING MINE, THO I HAVE HAD SEVERAL HOSPITALS “SLEEP-OVERS”, w CONCUSSIONS, CONTUSIONS, ALL THE FUN;THEY BRING?) YOU SEE, I’VE, ALSO, BEEN THE RECIPIENT AND UNHAPPY AND UNWILLING “WARMTH PROVIDER”, MORE THAN ONCE. HAVING HAD BOTH “EXPERIENCES”, IN, WAY TOO MANY, INSTANCES, I AM CERTAIN, IN BOTH WAYS, OF BOTH, THE EXTREME PAIN AND THE ANIMALISTIC SATISFACTION; IN INFLICTING SAME. TO, MERELY, CONSIDER THE POSSIBILITY, OF SUCH A TEMPORARY, BUT MANIACAL BLOOD LUST INSANITY, IN ME, SHAKES AND MAKES ME, RIGHT NOW, SEE THE MOST UNUSUAL, BUT NOT, CURRENTLY, DISCOUNTED, RELIEF, IN ALLOWING MY STOMACH TO HAVE ITS WAY. “NICE” HAS A STAGGERING AND VARYING AMOUNT OF FACETS. THUS, THE INFINITE QUESTIONS; I KINDA “DREADED”, AND FELT, IN ATTEMPTING TO TACKLE AN IMPOSSIBILITY. NAILING “NICE” DOWN TO SOME COVER-ALL DEF? THIS, HOWEVER, FORM OF “NOT NICE”? DELETE “KINDA”, FROM THE LAST SENTENCE? MORBID AND EVIL, TO AND OF, ME, TO KNOW AND ACCEPT, I AM, NOT ONLY, CAPABLE, BUT DESPITE THE MOST, TOTALLY, LOVE-ENGENDERED REASONS, NOTHING JUSTIFIES, THAT I WOULD, w GREAT ENTHUSIASM! TUFF REALITY TO DEAL w!
    GUESS; I KINDA WENT LONG, PER USUAL? IT SHOULD?

    Posted by ROBERTOelDRAGÓN&IDYs! on October 23, 2010 – Saturday – 12:19 AM

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