Okay, look, folks. If you’re gonna have a conversation about abortion, that’s fine—brawl away. To me, however, clearly it is a hot issue and a divisive one—people suffer for it, and people make each other suffer for it. Purely on THAT basis, it seems to me there is resolution of some sort needed. The problem with this is that abortion is not just one issue. It is something that intersects with just about every other human venue there is, and painfully so, because it exposes the ugly underside of a lot of our cherished illusions about how life is supposed to be and how humans are supposed to act—indeed, it raises questions about who we essentially are, and who we have been. Self-identity is in question. Dunt da dunt dunt!!
AND!! If you’re gonna have a conversation (brawl) about abortion, then you cannot in good conscience, not to mention common sense, leave anyone out of the discussion. You can’t disqualify any voice right out of the gate. Doing so defeats the purpose of sorting through everything to find what the questions are and foment answers, because you have already excluded a population that suffers for this issue same as everyone else, so their take on it won’t get any attention (hence the problems are NOT resolved), and you deny yourself any resources those excluded voices might otherwise offer for resolution.
Howsoever you put your world together, so be it. I will try to hear you, and I will encourage others to do the same. We’re all human here, eh?
So, what I want to do here is simply come up with a list of all the things that need to be considered regarding the subject of abortion.
Who, what, where, when, why and that.
I am totally and completely flying by the seat of my pants here. I don’t have any answers, I’m not any more sure than anyone else exactly what all the questions are or how exactly they interact, all I have are a few analytical tools in my tool box that might help clarify stuff here and there—and…a very strong love for you all, and a rather debilitating, at times, concern for the suffering that occurs within the milieu of abortion, as well as outside that milieu, i.e., what it indicates about the world we have constructed for ourselves and in which we live.
That last phrase in the paragraph above is already an opinion (mine, to be precise). But, we have to start somewhere, right? Or I do, anyway. I suck at trying to solve knotty problems by swallowing the whole pig all at once.
So, here’s a starting question: what circumstances (personal, social, political, economic, spiritual, intellectual, physical, etc.) contribute to a woman finding herself in the position of being faced with a decision whether or not to have an abortion?
All people are welcome to contribute. I am ABSOLUTELY going to moderate the comments, so you won’t see them posted right away once you hit the submit button. Here’re the guidelines, if you want to avoid being censored by me (yes, I said censored):
1. Be respectful of other people. There’s no point in having any discussion if all that happens is folks take pot-shots at each other. If you need to vent your anger, please find some other venue or forum to do so. If you wish to express your anger (or other emotion), that’s okay, just don’t point it like a gun at anyone. In other words, address the perspective, not the person. Yes, I realize this contradicts the idea that one’s self-identity is intertwined with one’s perspective–but there IS a line here; do the best you can not to cross it.
2. Be forgiving of other people. This topic provokes strong feelings for us all, and occasionally that will come out, especially since I myself am only human and will likely make moderation mistakes—or not. I may allow what seems to be a scathing comment, for a reason. Consider that, too.
3. Be forgiving of yourself. This is vague, I know, but I leave it to you to question me specifically about what this might mean. In general, there are no right or wrong answers.
4. Be prepared to learn. Understand that this might be painful.
5. Do the best you can to be honest.
And, last but not least…
6. DON’T PANIC!!
Here’s the question again, to spare you having to scroll up:
What circumstances (personal, social, political, economic, spiritual, intellectual, physical, etc.) contribute to a woman finding herself in the position of being faced with a decision whether or not to have an abortion?
Alrighty, then. Have at it, people.